Back to School


The day is FINALLY here! Today Tate went back to preschool (it’s only a two-hour first day back, but I’ll take it!) and Lucy has been in school for about two weeks now. While I’m thrilled to get back to our normal daily routine, there are definitely some challenges getting back into the grind. I recently wrote a post on this very topic for While you might think, “I’m not in recovery, this doesn’t apply to me,” I believe many of the ideas I stress in my recovery are applicable for any mom, anywhere. We aren’t that different, you know?

Back to School

I would get caught up in the “Parenting Olympics,” trying to be everywhere and everything to everyone. It was an impossible task, but one that even “normie” parents (those who aren’t in recovery) get caught up in. Our schools are super-competitive, and it’s easy to believe that if your kid isn’t enrolled in every activity or sport, they will fall behind. For me, 90% of what I did and felt was driven by insecurity. I wanted to be the best mom in the world and I assumed that if my kid wasn’t the star of everything, I was a failure. It was a hopeless cycle, for myself and my family.

These days, I work very hard to make sure I don’t get caught up in competitive parenting. I’m quite lucky, because once I got into recovery and opened my eyes, I realized my school community is extremely supportive and not nearly as competitive as I had thought. Turns out, a lot of my insecurities were inside my own head and had nothing to do with my child or any of her buddies. Once I realized that I am a good mother regardless of whether my kid is the star of the soccer team or on the honor roll, my entire perspective changed. Back to school season became less about “me me me” and more about my child.

You can read more, including some tips on how I’m managing to keep things simple this school year, over at

Thank You!


Sooo…hi everyone! I just wanted to write a quick note to say THANK YOU to everyone who read my latest blog post and responded with such positivity. I was honestly super terrified to publish that piece, because I was very unsure of what the reaction would entail. I was totally unprepared for the stream of love, kindness and support that was sent my way, from people I know and people I’ve never even met. Not only did my recovery community rally around me, but others did as well. The post was shared over 150 times on Facebook by Friday (which is when I decided I needed to step away from the Internet or I might have an anxiety attack) and I received hundreds of messages of support on Facebook alone, not to mention my friends on Instagram and Twitter. I also received a dozen emails from strangers who either wanted to show support or were looking for how they could find help for themselves or a family member.

I tell you all this not to boast, but to show how freaking HUGE this issue is. No matter who you are, or where you are from, you are affected. Everyone knows someone who has been negatively impacted by addiction. But there is so much hope. Did you know there are over 23 million people in the United States in long term recovery from addition issues? That’s an incredible number! Part of of my reason for going public was so I could more openly support groups such as Many Faces 1 Voice and I Am Not Anonymous, who are spearheading a new recovery movement. There is a documentary on Netflix right now called “The Anonymous People” and if you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend watching.

Recovery works. I am so proud to be who I am and where I am in this journey. And so, so grateful.

From the bottom of my heart…thank you.

Getting Healthy

Two Years : Experience, Strength, Hope

I’m a blogger.

You guys, that’s a super strange thing to be. For the past 10+ years I have written about my life on the Internet. When I started, I had absolutely no filter. There was no need! No one read blogs, hardly anyone even knew what they were. The only people reading here regularly were my best friends from college. I complained, I moaned, I made fun of people. I talked about people in a way I NEVER would today. I wrote about stories that were not mine to share. I broke confidentiality in the name of a funny blog post. It was understood amongst my inner circle of friends…if it happened, it was going on the blog.

But things change. And as I grew up, so did this blog. Once I had my first child, I started holding back when I shared. My story wasn’t just mine anymore (and in reality, it never was). I worried about portraying people in a negative way, about being inauthentic, about exaggerating for humorous effect. All of a sudden, it didn’t seem worth it. I still tried to write, but it was more difficult and more nuanced. I started writing about style, music and things I liked, instead of writing about my life. I started taking more photos, eventually leaning on photography to tell the story I felt I couldn’t anymore.

And then social media appeared on the scene. Now my readers (my friends) had their own outlets. They didn’t need to read and comment here. They posted on Facebook and Twitter, then on Snapchat and Instagram and Vine. My readership changed. Soon I realized I didn’t really know who I was talking to. And while you’d think that would be freeing, it was actually terrifying.

For someone like me, the idea of crafting an online persona is intoxicating. A former nerdy outcast, all I had ever wanted was to make other people happy. I just wanted you to like me. This was my real life dilemma, and it become an online one as well. I had no idea who I really was because I spent so much time trying to be what you or he or they wanted me to be.

But two years ago, I made a big change in my life, and that change has rippled out to completely redesign what this blog is all about. For two years I’ve wanted to talk about this change, but I’ve been afraid. Just admitting that is so scary. Because when you’re authentic and honest, you open yourself up for judgement and criticism. And for me, that judgement hurts all the more because it’s the REAL me being judged. It’s not some fake persona created for the Internet. It’s me.

You see, today is my birthday.

You might be wondering why this birthday didn’t come up on your Facebook feed or on your calendar. But this isn’t that kind of birthday. Two years ago today, my entire life changed. I didn’t know it at the time. Honestly, at the time I felt like my life was going to crash down around me. But looking back, I can say that today was the best day of my life. Because today is the day I chose to stop hiding, stop numbing and start living my life again.

Today I am a person in long term recovery, which for me means it’s been two years since my last drink of alcohol. Two years since I decided that numbing myself at night to deal with my life wasn’t a healthy way to continue living. I think many of us have been there…working parents, overstressed, overworked and under appreciated. For me, I felt like I was constantly running, with no finish line in site. No matter how hard I worked or how much I loved my family, I felt like I could never get my head above water. I was drowning.

For a long time, I used alcohol to deal with this stress and constant feeling of overwhelm. I felt like I “deserved it” because I worked so hard. I did so much for everyone else, so why shouldn’t I get to relax at the end of the day? Well, that’s all well and good, until you can no longer relax without that glass clinking in front of you…and before I knew it, the glass had turned into two and then three and so on.

When I think about this day two years ago, I remember feeling hopeless. I felt so alone, like this huge problem was sitting on my shoulders and I had to carry it all alone. I was ashamed and afraid. I knew I couldn’t go on like I had been, but I didn’t know how to stop. I had no coping skills without wine. Wine was how I celebrated, how I cried, how I relaxed. But I knew it had to stop, or it would only get worse. For me, there was no way up as long as I kept drinking.

I was lucky. I knew where to go. Years ago I had read a blog post by one of my favorite authors about her relationship with alcohol and how she decided to quit. I went back to that post and followed the links. I read stories of countless other women and mothers, just like me, who knew they had problem, but didn’t know what to do. I reached out to them. I asked them how they did it. I read and read and read. And I found my tribe.

I didn’t want to write this today. I’ve written about this journey before (namely here and here), but never on my own website. I’ve never talked directly to my readers (you) about this. But I’m learning when I don’t speak out, it hurts people like me. The only reason I was able to get the help I so desperately needed was because other women spoke out and I listened. I think there is real power and strength in showing the world that this issue can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, socioeconomic status, education, race…it does not discriminate. But recovery is possible. It really is. And it’s an amazing way to live.

In the last two years, my world has changed in immeasurable ways. It isn’t easy rewiring your brain and learning a new way to deal with life. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But as long as I keep at it, my journey gets more and more fulfilling. Today, two years later, I am thriving. My depression lifted. I lost 30 pounds. I created my own business and now my passion is my work. My body is healthier than it’s ever been. I’m a happier mother, wife and friend. My life is so much better.

I know some people would scold me for sharing this with you all. Trust me, I’ve thought of all the reasons I shouldn’t. It could hurt my business. It could make you look at me differently. Maybe you’ll stop reading all together. I get it.

But in the end, I couldn’t NOT share this part of my story. It’s been such a huge part of my life and keeping it secret seemed inauthentic. I hope by writing this here, maybe someone who’s struggling will see there is a happy future waiting for them too. And maybe they can learn there is NOTHING to be ashamed of. Asking for help does not make you weak, it makes you brave. The people I’ve met on this journey are some of the most courageous that I’ve ever met. They are the kindest, most fun, loving people I’ve had the privilege of knowing. There is so much hope for anyone who is still struggling with this problem. Recovery is possible. I am proof.


If you’re suffering, try going here. There are tons of resources that have helped me, and can help you too.

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