The other day the kids had a half day of school, and we were looking for something fun to do. As a Big Sister in the Big Brothers Big Sisters program, I’m always looking for ways to support this organization. This spring, BBBS has partnered with Great Wolf Lodge in Kansas City, Kansas to offer discounted day passes to their indoor waterpark in an event called Big Splash. This is one of the few times during the year when people are permitted to use the waterpark without staying at the hotel, which is pretty pricy! At $10 per person, this is a steal! We ended up spending the entire afternoon splashing and playing, and the kids had an amazing time. If you are looking for a fun activity, Big Splash is definitely the way to go!
To buy your own day pass tickets, click here. For more information on Big Splash for BBBS, click here.
Spring is such a fun season, but I find it to be totally exhausting. After a fairly uneventful winter, it’s like LIFE is springing from every nook and cranny. We went from cabin fever to being away from home almost every hour of the day. And even when we are home, we’re going and doing and working and having fun…and and and! It’s wonderful, but I’ve been struggling to write here or anywhere, for that matter. I have some exciting freelance gigs on the horizon, which I’m super pumped to share in a few weeks as well! That is, of course, provided I actually find the time to write them. Until then, enjoy a few iPhone snaps of life here and there over the last few weeks.
When your life is so full that you can’t find time to blog about it, that is a GOOD, good thing.
(Texts inspired by a story from Fast Company about banning emails after 6 p.m. in France, which you can find here)
The other night Lucy and I were laying in bed and I asked her how her day was. She was messing around with some stuffed animals and offhandedly said, “It was okay, not great though.”
I asked her what happened and she shared she had her feelings hurt by a friend. When she told me what happened I asked her how she felt about it. She seemed so nonchalant about the whole thing, and I wanted her to know it’s okay to be sad or upset. I feel like much of my childhood was spent ensuring everyone knew I was okay.
Me, I’m okay. Are you okay? Are we okay? Is everything okay? Okay. Good.
When I was sad or angry or upset, I learned at a young age to stuff it deep down until I couldn’t feel it anymore. Except, of course, that never really works, does it? Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring. You have to face them! And it took me about 30 years to figure that one out. That’s a lot of years of stuffing and having resentment that easily spiraled out of control. I don’t want that for my kids. I want them to know being angry is natural and normal. Being hurt sucks, but it’s worse to pretend you’re okay when you’re really not.
So sitting in bed with Lucy, knowing she must feel hurt and sad, and hearing her say “I’m okay,” really triggered me. I asked gently, “Are you sure you’re okay? It’s alright to be upset. I’d probably be upset if I were you.”
She looked up at me and said, “Yeah, mom, I was upset. I didn’t say anything though. I’m all about kindness now! And fun! So I’m not mad anymore. I’m just gonna have fun instead.”
Well, crap, you guys. I was just schooled in the arena of mental stability by a 7-year-old. It seems I still have much to learn. At least I have the best teachers around me.
A few months ago I was in a weird time in my life, and a good friend recommended I read the book Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton. I owe that friend a cookie. One of those giant cookies they sell at the mall with your name written in frosting on the top. That’s how much I truly loved this book.
Let’s be upfront here…yes, Carry On, Warrior is written by a blogger. Glennon is the voice behind the hugely successful blog Momastery, and that definitely influenced the book. In fact, several portions were originally posts on her blog. But (BUT!) this memoir is so much more. Glennon writes in a way that makes you feel like she’s sitting right next to you. She’s irreverent and funny, all the while being grateful and honest about her less than perfect life. Glennon has battled addiction and an eating disorder, along with Lyme’s Disease, and she is very upfront about her struggle. In fact, she shares the reason she started her blog in the first place was to show the world that being honest can be freeing. Her openness about her struggle with her marriage and being a wife and mother are heart wrenching and so real. We are not perfect, but we are amazing! Now, that’s a book I can get behind!
All this to say, read this book. It came out in paperback yesterday and it’s well worth the price. Let’s dance.